When people talk about adoption, it is always mainly about the mother and the baby. Less is talked about the father of the child.
Adoption is Not Solely a Mother’s Decision
In many cases, the decision to put a child for adoption always falls on the mother’s hands. When mothers carry out the pregnancy outside of marriage, say in teenage pregnancy, the father’s rights must count as well.
Placing a baby for adoption,says HearttoHeartadopt.com may require the biological mother to disclose information about the father. As much as the mother has her right to choose what is best for the baby, so does the father. Whether they are unmarried to each other or not, the decision in placing a child for adoption should include the birth father.
Importance of Establishing Paternity
There are many instances where the father is not given his right to parent his child. In legal terms thisis so called circumventing a father’s right for child custody, and this includes failing to secure a relinquishment or legal termination of parental rights, taking the expectant mother out of the state to conceal the child and/or avoid putative father’s registries, publishing due negligence notices in obscure publication, taking advantage of military deployment or assignment, and listing the father as “unknown”.
All these methods may temporarily elude having the father taken into consideration. The law is so much stricter to the father than the mother in terms of parental rights. Whereas mothers may easily claim rights to the child, fathers are required paternal DNA testing.
Voluntary Termination and Consent
On the other hand, state laws only require one or both birth parents to legally consent to the adoption according to Family.FindLaw.com. Birth mothers and fathers who have established paternity may consent in writing and before a judge or other court appointed officers to voluntarily give their parental rights.
Putting a child for adoption is never easy for the birth mother and father. Nevertheless, it is as much a responsibility of the father to decide for his child as much as the mother’s.